What happened?!!! Summer vacation...from parenting. No. I lie. But oh how I wish there were such a thing. I think its healthy to be allowed to miss one's offspring from time to time. It's been too long since I have missed them...
And with that spectacular attention grabber, I will introduce my topic for today.
Do you ever find yourself disliking the parenting experience? Not the blog of course. I know you would never dislike, you know, THE Parenting Experience... but seriously. And maybe dislike is not a strong enough word. A few that just kind of float around in my mind: loathe. hate. detest. have an allergic reaction to. I mean, I'm sure it would not be healthy for all of us to get together and talk about hating parenting. And maybe its not that kind of day for you. But it is for me. So I'm addressing the topic. What happens when you are in the trenches and trying so hard to use the best techniques you know, but you still have little hoodlums working to unravel the very thread of your sanity?
I was thinking about this analogy today: I love to get a good work out. I love going to cycling classes. But right about 25 minutes into a cycle class I think, "I hate this. What was I thinking? I can't do this." And I keep going. And then after every cycle class I think, "Oh man, that felt GREAT! I'm so glad I made it!"
I think most parents feel strongly about the importance of raising great kids. We get geared up with our parenting books coupled with our strong instinct to love and care for our children. Then we get into the trenches. Our toddler begs mercilessly for treats each time we walk into a store and follows up our practiced and kind response with an unappreciative piercing scream. Our elementary age kids suddenly forgets how to dress himself on time or feed himself. Our preschooler demands to know each ingredient we put into dinner and upon hearing the once accepted ingredient of "cheese" snubs her nose and declares, "I no longer like cheese!" At the end of the day our children neglect to commend us for our mastery of patience with their nonsense. They don't seem to appreciate our efforts to provide healthy meals or firm limits. We retire for the evening with a little less steam for the next day. And this cycle may repeat itself for several days. That's when we may find ourselves asking the question, "Who's idea was this parenting thing anyways?! I hate this! I can't do this!" And we keep going. We pull out our books again. We talk with other parents. We experiment. And every once in a while, our kids--satisfied with all the consistent limits that we have provided--back off and allow us to enjoy them. And THAT feels GREAT! And we say, "I'm so glad I made it, because THIS is why I'm a parent. And I love my kids!"
And with that spectacular attention grabber, I will introduce my topic for today.
Do you ever find yourself disliking the parenting experience? Not the blog of course. I know you would never dislike, you know, THE Parenting Experience... but seriously. And maybe dislike is not a strong enough word. A few that just kind of float around in my mind: loathe. hate. detest. have an allergic reaction to. I mean, I'm sure it would not be healthy for all of us to get together and talk about hating parenting. And maybe its not that kind of day for you. But it is for me. So I'm addressing the topic. What happens when you are in the trenches and trying so hard to use the best techniques you know, but you still have little hoodlums working to unravel the very thread of your sanity?
I was thinking about this analogy today: I love to get a good work out. I love going to cycling classes. But right about 25 minutes into a cycle class I think, "I hate this. What was I thinking? I can't do this." And I keep going. And then after every cycle class I think, "Oh man, that felt GREAT! I'm so glad I made it!"
I think most parents feel strongly about the importance of raising great kids. We get geared up with our parenting books coupled with our strong instinct to love and care for our children. Then we get into the trenches. Our toddler begs mercilessly for treats each time we walk into a store and follows up our practiced and kind response with an unappreciative piercing scream. Our elementary age kids suddenly forgets how to dress himself on time or feed himself. Our preschooler demands to know each ingredient we put into dinner and upon hearing the once accepted ingredient of "cheese" snubs her nose and declares, "I no longer like cheese!" At the end of the day our children neglect to commend us for our mastery of patience with their nonsense. They don't seem to appreciate our efforts to provide healthy meals or firm limits. We retire for the evening with a little less steam for the next day. And this cycle may repeat itself for several days. That's when we may find ourselves asking the question, "Who's idea was this parenting thing anyways?! I hate this! I can't do this!" And we keep going. We pull out our books again. We talk with other parents. We experiment. And every once in a while, our kids--satisfied with all the consistent limits that we have provided--back off and allow us to enjoy them. And THAT feels GREAT! And we say, "I'm so glad I made it, because THIS is why I'm a parent. And I love my kids!"